acknowledging my own talents and starting to take action to build a life where I am doing what I love around people that celebrate me

expressing myself more boldly, finding people that love that about me, and following my curiosities into exciting new experiences with life.

having more time to be in my own flow, tending to my energy and infusing my daily life with healthy routines, deep relationships and grounded abundance.

being surrounded by beauty, surprise and sweet connections in my ordinary life while being sought out to nurture and share my wisdom in spaces that fill me with purpose.

reminding everyone that they can make the final decisions - you’re good, while procrastinating on actually packing by imagining how the holiday will feel, how you will look, what good stories you’ll have to share when you get back

being meticulous about planning unique and fun “experiences” you’ll all have when you get there and checking in with what would make this vacation amazing for everyone involved

making the “we still need” lists, gathering the necessities, running the last minute errands someone forgot, thinking of the things other people have missed and making sure to grab them

researching all the information about where you are going, when things are open or happening, when to get to the airport, reaching out to oversee that everyone is on track, communicating with everyone three or four times so everyone knows “the plan”

you feel so soothed when someone offers you a compliment - even though you tend to minimize or deflect it

you just melt when someone expresses that they want you, specifically, to be a part of something - even though you tend to act cool about it

you get giddy when someone else cancels plans the same day so you have “free time” - even though you act bummed about it

your heart just warms up like the sun when someone seeks you out specifically to ask for your opinion - even though you’d offer it anyways

People-Pleaser

Chameleon

Caretaker

Adviser/Planner

a life other's envy

for others to adore you

to not have to work at all

to be sought for my wisdom

I was treated like I was too much - the things I wanted were suppressed, condemned, or ignored, so I just tried to act like they didn't exist

I was treated like I was a wrongdoer - the things I did were criticized and catastrophized, so I just played the role they wanted me to play

I was treated like I was too needy - the needs I required were downplayed, unallowed, and punished, so I just took care of other people's "more important" needs instead

I was treated like I was inept - the things I tried to do on my own were criticized and caused chaos/fights, so I just tried to find the right answers and "way"