I’m Jenna.

HEY, I APPRECIATE YOU BEING HERE!

It's my mission to take the vast, complex nature and jargon of codependency and translate it into a clearer framework using resonant, plain & experiential language - so you can move beyond self erasure by focusing back towards your own power, expression, self esteem + trust, discernment, needs and inner peace/stability... and move towards a more nourishing, resourceful and interdependent existence with others and life around you.

But, really, what is my story?

I’m a codependency & relational mentor, educator, writer and creator of the Range of Codependency Typology

I spent so much my twenty’s functioning inside my relationships and friendships through codependent tactics - like seeking to manage the other person’s life & decisions through unsolicited advice, pretending I didn’t have any needs or didn’t feel what I felt so I could appear low maintenance, abandoning my desires so I could always be available when the phone rang, and managing everything on the home front when cohabitating to try to sustain increasingly unfulfilling and loveless relationships.

I really thought if I could be valuable, needed and indispensable in these ways, then I was worthy of love, friendship and care - and would be seen as a “good’ person.

But the self neglect caught up with my health and body. For 3 years, I tried to relate in these ways, still obsessing over how to “correctly” make my relationships better, while avoiding my own very real and very serious health concerns.

At 29, as the height of my health concerns lowered, I ended my 7 year relationship.

I also realized I had been the supporting character in my friends or partner’s lives for so long (in my own head) that I didn’t even know how to pay attention to me or feel important to my own life. I felt erased.

I was initiated into my own deep work around codependency (yet, no one was able to yet tell me the language of the way I had been trying to relate).

For almost a decade now, I’ve been learning WHAT codependency is and unlearning how to relate in codependent ways.

This took me through self help books, life coaching and years in recovery tradition step work. I had to relearn and create a new paradigm of what loving meant and looked like. I had to swim in the shadow work of my own projections, fears and worthiness wounding. I had to pay close attention to my own life, my own natural way of being, as my most aligned, wise guide.

What I know now is that recovering, down below all the self help, all the practices, all the support, all the shadow work, all the wound work and matriarchal line healing, all the patriarchal programming, all the very necessary resourcing of what has been neglected in our own life, is that recovering is about…

Being with all, drawing close to all, and living our way beyond codependency in our ordinary, hour to hour lives…without losing the ability to sense ourselves in the process.

Through starting-at-the-beginning education & resources, expansive and grounded group mentorships, and depth personalized mentoring to challenge and welcome your own way of being - I hope to meet you on whatever codependency you may be experiencing in your present and walk with you as you learn to move with and beyond it, in a self-returned way.

P.S. yes, I found a playful, spiritual, passionate relationship along the way, one I practice new ways of being full in everyday. And one I remember is not my sole source but part of a robust tapestry of a fulfilled life.

LET’S BEGIN HERE

Find out your Range of Codependency Type

And what you could live into beyond codependent relating…

OF COURSE, THERE’S A DEEPER INTENTION AND PURPOSE I AM HOLDING HERE…

You, fully existing.

I mentor purpose-driven, service-hearted and radically loving individuals aiming to live their way out of codependent self-erasure, develop possibilities for inner peace, inhabit their most naturally authentic self and draw intimately closer to self, other, spirit and service with a newly grounded personal stability…

BECAUSE - I want to see what a world of folks who aren’t relating and loving through the paradigm of hierarchy, labor and suppression would be like.

We need a world where we can care freely and largely - because we are aren’t wasting our precious energy controlling how folks perceive us, trying to change others to get what we need and depleting ourselves to the bone because we gave more care than we needed for us all (yes, all - that includes YOU!) to be well.