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CLIENT TESTIMONIALS
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Katelyn's Storytime
“I am enjoying my relationships without putting a ton of work into them like I did before, and I am putting that energy into my own life. And no one cares!!! If anything it has made me a better friend.”
Katelyn H. | Previous Member
When I first joined the mentorship, I was stuck in a cycle of feeling alone in over functioning and caretaking to the point of burnout.
I was becoming extremely resentful and passive aggressive, blowing up on those around me, experiencing the backlash of the people I blew up on, and then overcompensating all over again in order to make it up to them. I felt like I had to keep proving I'm not a bad person, and that started the cycle of at caretaking again.
I had been through so many rounds of this, had lost friendships, and was in the midst of losing my sister to the same fate. Noticing that the cycles were getting worse and not better, inspired me to take action and join Relationally Centered…
I wanted to learn how to end the cycle that was literally ruining my life, relationships and self-esteem.
Honestly, this mentorship felt so easeful, safe, impactful and life-changing.
Through mentoring, I came to realize I didn't have to meet the "family standard" for events. I really felt like the weight of getting it right was on my shoulders, which is why I got resentful when no one helped me. I didn't believe that I could be loved for just being me, without all the labor. I went so above and beyond to do for others - just so they would love me and see that I was a good person.
Without all that 'doing' I didn't feel valuable. So I didn’t prioritize my happiness or hobbies if, at the same time ,someone I cared about was going through it. I centered my whole life around helping others get through their crisis moments. I couldn't relax until everyone was settled, and felt guilty if I prioritized myself when I could be helping. Truly…
That’s the BIGGEST SHIFT that came from working with Jenna: decentering solving another’s problems…
Other people's problems aren't mine, and I finally realize and live like that! Now I practice refocusing all of that energy back onto myself, figuring out who I am, what I like and what I want to do with my time!
It has been a total renewal. I am excited about all of life's possibilities for the first time in years. It's been…fun!
By the end of the mentorship, my relationships feel a lot better to me. I am slowly realizing that my friends love me for me and not for what I do for them. This has made me a better friend because I focus more on talking about my hobbies and interests rather than just complaining about how burdened I am by other people's problems and being a constant martyr.
I went from panicking to solve their problems with them (as if they were my own) to being their #1 cheerleader: reminding them that they are smart, capable, and got this.
I stopped automatically offering to help at the first opportunity. I really think about whether it will make me resentful or not first. And I don't feel like a bad person for opting out.
Before, the discomfort of not offering my help immediately was unbearable. And I would offer even if I didn't want to. I just don't feel as obligated anymore. It's great. I only give what I want to give! And before I offer I accept that I am choosing this myself, so as to avoid resentment. I am selective and make sure that I can emotionally handle it before offering.
Even more than ALL THIS… I’ve also stopped having crazy high expectations of myself. I used to host events to the same standard my “Martha Stewart” Grandma and Mom hosted things (!!), with or without the support of other family members. Now I am better about assessing how much help I have first before taking on a big project.
This has helped me be REAL, and saved me from feeling resentful when others don't choose to help out.
PLEASE do this. Life doesn't have to be so hard. There is another way and Jenna's group is such an easy way to get there.
It has completely freed me from my previous limiting paradigm.
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M.G’s Storytime
M.G | Anonymous Member
“I’ve stopped searching for additional things I think I need to do/have/be to feel content with myself.”
Before this mentorship, I felt like I was losing connection with myself and deprioritizing the parts of my life that influence my feelings of vibrancy and aliveness.
All of which led me to self-isolate and pull away from others even though I needed to lean in and be supported. I was getting lost in the worrying about everyone else, and timelines outside my control, and resentment was building.
While my resource and support systems were foundationally in-tact, there were still tender parts needing some additional TLC.
I wanted to be held. I wanted to feel seen. And I was able to move towards this due to the slow and delicious burn this container was.
Working with Jenna was an easy yes. I had felt the current of electricity pulsing every time I opened up a message from her as she mused about her journey with codependency. I think I knew the whole time this was in my future. Within only a few months, accessing and sharing more vulnerably became easier and the process helped me spot points where I could make some small adjustments.
Her mentorship is nurturing, grounded, thoughtful and dynamic. Being in this experience alongside others and sharing together on calls deepened everything happening in the messages and 1-1 calls, making it all feel meaningful and interconnected.
My season of life in this mentorship was about discovering what becomes possible when I can get just a little bit more curious about what I need and the various ways those needs can be met. I saw with so much clarity over this period of time that I have enough and now…
I'm no longer desperately seeking answers but letting life unfold.
I no longer feel so alone in this journey. This journey, indeed, is better with others.
I've started to clarify and clean out the things that used to be supportive that are no longer and I am discovering new ways to relate to them or discard them altogether. I've started filling my days with the glimmers that keep me feeling vital and I've started reaching out to friends and seeking ways to deepen the connectivity and communication in my relationships.
This mentorship was inspiring and such a delight.
I was able to shift from feeling like my satisfaction and peace were dependent on factors outside of my control to discovering ways I could be present to whatever I was experiencing, be with it, and choose.
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Katherine’s Storytime
Katherine L. | Previous Member
“This kind of growth hits different. It's real and blinding and truly life altering.”
When I first entered Jenna’s mentorship space, I was waking up to the presence of codependency and realizing so much of what was occurring in my life: the overwhelm, the nervous system dis-regulation, the lack of boundaries, the people pleasing, the self-abandonment, oh the list could go on…
I wanted to feel less alone and be able to more deeply identify the changes that were actually available to me because I knew I could no longer continue to live in these unhealthy patterns that had felt safe and allowed me to survive up until this point.
I’d been curious about codependency for a while, but knew it was a really tender space for me - so I was very protective and hesitant to enter into a container and receive support. But when I saw that Jenna was holding this space, I knew this was the place for me.
This mentorship felt so grounded, expansive, blooming in curiosity, hopeful, safe.
I was extra grateful for the 1:1 calls at the beginning because I was so tender and unsure what codependency even was and where it was showing up in my life. But those monthly private calls with Jenna really helped me in identifying what was happening with me before laying it all bare before folks in the group I was still unfamiliar with.
In time, the group component, particularly the longer we were together, felt unmatched!
Hearing other’s stories, being there to witness the support they needed and received, hearing how not alone we all were, and then collectively giving and receiving support from one another was SO FUCKING POWERFUL!
Now, I am seeing things that I never saw before and realizing my capacity to hold "all the things" I've been trying to hold, for what feels like forever, is much less than I have ever allowed myself to acknowledge.
How I relate to my partner has shifted dramatically.
I am much more aware of my own internal tendencies, can see when blame or shame is prevalent and can now more naturally vocalize what I'm actually feeling or experiencing, not just hiding it away. I feel the difference in our communication, noticing my own patterns, validating myself, asking for what I need - and honoring when I don't. For this alone, I am truly grateful for this mentorship.
Now I know that my relationships can look different than what is "expected" if that is what supports my nervous system and natural way of being.
This mentorship has supported me to stop self-isolating and cutting myself off from real people and conversations, while helping me start saying more uncomfortable things out loud, seeking out support and exploring radical self-acceptance.
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Jenna’s Storytime
Jenna D. | Previous Member
“I’ve started speaking my needs from a place of authenticity & showing up more for myself when others can’t.”
When I first signed up to work with Jenna, I felt unsettled in my intimate relating. I logically understood how I wanted to show up and communicate in an empowered & loving way, but was struggling to consistently practice speaking my truth in a direct way. I was operating out of protection—trying to control (let’s be real: micro-manage!!) all the variables to give myself the illusion of safety, which left me feeling a lot of resentment. I wanted to experience more self trust, confidence to bring more of ME to the table, and to feel proud of how I was showing up to & in my life, regardless of the outcomes that were beyond my control.
And I knew I didn’t want to do this alone! I know how Jenna leads space with exquisite integrity & realness, and I wanted to go on this journey alongside others who were willing to dive deep into their own work with this.
Her mentorship ended up walking me through, and will continue to support me through, a really raw season of my life.
This mentorship felt like an unfolding. It was a held space for integration - expansive AND empowering.
7 months later, the intensity of what I was experiencing before has dropped dramatically and I’m recognizing more quickly when I’m operating in old programming. I don’t believe all those little moments of codependency ever completely “goes away” and I’m so grateful to feel like I’m living more fully into who I AM, and know how to keep coming back to myself.
What I found most valuable was living into the work — This space allowed me time & space to actually experience the concepts.
From that, the biggest shift for me is my evolving ability to bring more of my true self forward and…
Now I know how to detach from the need to control how I’ll be perceived by others.
I significantly lessened my need to control outcomes and how others will see me. I’m no longer taking responsibility for things that aren’t mine (or I can shift when I realize I’m doing it) and I’m not going into shadowy projections to try to be nice in order to control others' reactions to the truths I need to share. Because of this ability to show up for myself, no matter what other’s are up to, I don’t feel dropped.
I’m forever grateful for this experience.
Thank you, Jenna, for sharing your wisdom with such authenticity & embodiment— It’s such a gift to this world for those craving a realness & depth that goes beyond just head knowledge.
Jenna made being with my reality and others feel easier to embrace - and now I’m communicating, with more clarity, the truth of my heart.
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Private Client Story from A.P.
“I feel much more of me, like in my body and…whole, than I have in a long time.”
Sitting here today, with the safety I built for myself with Jenna and thinking back, I remember going into that first session incredibly full of shame.
The obsession over my past relationship felt so loud, and dating slowly, intentionally, even liking someone again, felt impossible to me.
As I let myself be known more through the ways I connected over time, relating in the space, choosing more relating in real life, becoming more vulnerable in the sessions, practicing rejecting the shame and instinct to cocoon myself on a regular basis and not face life, face choices or face others, it was soo good.
Really, all of it has contributed to this feeling of healing, and feeling like I am here.
In fact, I feel pretty firmed here.
I don't feel so disconnected anymore from being a whole person that is just waiting for life to happen.
I am more in my life. I'm living more. I'm having better days. I’m enjoying being where I am, in the space I'm in. It feels so hopeful. So full of opportunity. I still have doubts but I definitely move more freely and take on opportunities more freely.
Now I feel surrounded by community. I've experienced a lot more openness to receiving and giving love and I think, now with dating, it's like another opportunity to wade into that romantically. Even the fact that I am choosing to date again is a big indication of the inner change in me.
And though it took time, I am finally forgiving myself.
I look back, and I am proud of myself for making a choice at all. In a lot of ways, making a choice no longer feels angsty, spiraling, avoidant.
In this process, somewhere along the way, I began to realize no decision is "bad" and when I actually did it, it felt easier and smoother than I thought. It didn't have to feel so hard.