Break Free

I spent so much my twenty’s functioning inside my relationships and friendships through codependency tactics - like seeking to manage the other person’s life & decisions, staying silent about what I needed, dropping my desires to be always be available and people pleasing as a way to emotionally manage. I really thought if I could be valuable, needed and indispensable, then I was worthy of love, friendship and care.

When I woke up at 29 and ended a 7 year relationship, I realized I had been the supporting character in other folk’s lives for so long (in my own head) that I didn’t even know how to pay attention to me or my life anymore. I had been erased.

That began my deep work around codependency. I’ve spent almost a decade learning to create secure inner worthiness, unlearn and relearn a new paradigm of love, swimming in the shadow work of my breaking old patterns, and paying close attention to my own life as my most spiritual and aligned guide.

All this while continuing to intentional be fully myself AND in togetherness with the love of my life, without working myself to the bone (and overwhelming the folks around me) trying to prove my value.

Now I educate, coach, teach and create resources that help you move out of the codependent love wound, in your day to day life, and into what is beyond… a life where you get to exist more fully as you are while cultivating nourishing, reciprocal relating.

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